I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills
– William Wordsworth
HOW TO ESCAPE LONELINESS?
By: Dr. Chen Yehezkely
Dear Aaron, my beloved cousin
I willingly and happily respond to your touching invitation for collaboration, which is, I believe, the central theme in your http://www.foolquest.com/ site. This here is but an opening shot: I invite you to respond to this response and then we can have a standing ongoing dialogue which you will (if you please) post in your site.
Your invitation for collaboration always implies – and you sometimes explicitly articulate – the question: what are the minimal requirements for any minimally (hopefully mutually) beneficial collaboration, or communication? Since the minimal form of collaboration or communication is the basic social experience, this question is possibly the logical equivalent of: how to escape loneliness? I find this question – banal and trite as it may be – one of the most intriguing, most beautiful, most vital and most pregnant extant.
It is a sad but undeniable fact of life (I know, you have reservations regarding the usage of this word. Please let it slide) that many, possibly most of us have no experience of even the minimum degree of communication, so as to give them the minimal degree of social experience needed for the sustenance of any minimal mental health. Which is to say, many, possibly most of us are socially starved, lonely as clouds. John Lennon asked about all the lonely people: where do they all come from? And then: where do they all belong? As for his first question, I have some idea: they come from the closed society and from the closed educational systems of both the closed society and the open. As for the second question: who cares? We’d do much better to care not about where these people – us included, of course – belong, but how can they be helped? How can we help make this world just a bit less lonely? How to escape loneliness??
Bertrand Russell once wrote, I think it was in his Conquest of Happiness, that many people are happy to go to war because they view it as an escape from boredom, which suggests that if people were to lead a more interesting and snagging lifestyle, there would be less wars. I say the same about loneliness.
This will do for now. I pass the ball to you and await your response.